You’re dating, it’s wonderful, then bam! The breakup happens out of nowhere. Here are the biggest reasons why relationships don’t last.
1. You Have Secrets
Joe was a nice guy, but he had lots of secrets. For example, his parents didn’t know he drank alcohol, and so when they came for a visit he and his girlfriend had to stash their wine collection in the basement. There were dozens of these little life secrets that he felt he had to keep. One day Kari said, “Enough!” and threw in the towel. If you’ve built a web of lies for your family, your coworkers, and various groups of friends, don’t be surprised if a new romantic partner balks at wanting to join the charade.
2. Jealousy
Have you ever said, “Who were you with?” Have you ever told your partner that you didn’t want them hanging around certain opposite-sex friends? Perhaps you think you’ve been subtle in your jealous tendencies. It doesn’t matter. If you seem threatened by the people your girlfriend/boyfriend interacts with, it will become apparent. You may feel that your jealousy is warranted. Great. It’s time to break up. Otherwise, check your paranoia, and put a little trust in your partner. Otherwise, they are going to show you the door.
3. Religion
Religion is a funny thing with some people. It doesn’t matter, until it matters. There are many adults in their twenties and thirties who seem to have little use for the faith of their parents. They may date without regard to religion, but then one day, they realize that it is very important to their future. This may not happen until they begin to think of having children. You may find that the religious differences that didn’t matter for years are, all of a sudden, a significant deal-breaker. Unfortunately, it can be one of those issues where earnest discussion and compromise won’t make a difference.
4. Family Gets in the Way
You’ve heard the old adage, “You don’t just marry the person. You marry his/her family.” So true. When we’re doing the calculus of who would be a good long-term partner, inevitably the person’s family plays some part in the equation. It may sound harsh, but if your family is intrusive, domineering, belittling or just plain crazy, your partner may just decide he/she can’t handle it.
5. You Want Marriage—and He Doesn’t
This one is for the ladies. If you’ve been pushing to get married, and he’s been less than enthusiastic, it should come as no surprise that he wants out. He may love you, but your goals are different and you NEVER want to rope a man into marriage. Consider yourself lucky. It’s time to go and find a man who appreciates you and is ready for marriage. They are out there.
6. He Found Someone Else
This has got to be one of the most painful ways to part ways. You are cruising along with this person, enjoying your romantic life together, when he drops the news like a ton of bricks: “I’ve met someone else.” Hey, it has happened to most of us. In the end, this person obviously wasn’t the one and there is a better match out there. All you can do is say, “Your loss,” and move on with your head held high.
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